I think, in these cases, that's where religion really shines - "cough, cough, don't worry about me and my quite frankly mind-blowing sacrifice - it's not like I just handed my ENTIRE LIFE over to some fleeting policy - no, I am entering The Kingdom of Heaven!!!"
but like, those ripple-conflicts, once a civil war is over, disagreeing factions, minor clashes, minimal casualties - imagine being one of the 17 dead or some stupid shit, "cough, cough, tell my mother... i love her" and you died so that negotiations could be postponed 3 more days, or something lame.