Seeing as 3&4 aren't fallout games or at the very least barely resemble a proper fallout game imma say new vegas
I would say try Fallout 3 so that she wont refuse playing it after playing NV for the first time. NV is so good that it ruins the Fallout 3 experience. Trust me on that one.
I'd say that kinda the point of starting her on new vegas. Otherwise it's kinda like tricking her into playing trash.